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Boundaries: how build them and mend your self-concept.
Boundaries have always been problematic for me. I unintentionally cross them, don’t know how to establish them, and often have a delayed response when the flimsy few I’ve set are crossed. After a deep dive into my past, I realized that my need to be liked has a lot to do with the fear and…
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Learning to be proud.
I am proud of myself. This week I took a risk and shared my thoughts with others…as in, I presented what I know to be true in front of a full room of professionals. And let me say that again, I am proud of myself. It’s been a while since I last had the opportunity…
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How honesty helps heal the soul (and will save America).
Those of you who know me, know that I am a political junkie. (This addiction is one I think it’s safe to keep!) Since the days of Bill Clinton, I’ve been categorically interested in politics. I wanted to become the first female President as a child. While working towards a B.S. in Political Science from…
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Self-mothering: how to heal without your mom.
This weekend would have been my mom’s 70th birthday. August 2nd will mark 6 years since she passed and if I’m honest, I only recently started dealing with this profound loss. Her death sent me into a wild downward trajectory, the depths of which I am still hesitant to explain in detail. But now, solid…
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Self-resourcing: how to hold it together.
Self-resourcing helps in times when the world just feels like too much. Maybe we are dealing with rejection, from a lover, or a job we thought we had in the bag. Perhaps the rejection is coming from within. Maybe the demands placed on us by the world (or ourselves) are just too heavy. We might…
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How do we change our mindset?
Going from “I’m f*cked” to “I’ll figure it out.” How do we change our mindset? Some days are harder than others. Even when we feel like we have sobriety on lock. There are days that we second guess our strength. We replay every stupid thing we think we said and only notice the negative. Especially…
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How yoga helped me recover.
I’m not part of the self-project cult, but yoga helped me recover… honestly, more than anything else. I started practicing yoga to make myself feel better. It’s a rather unimpressive story. I was sentenced to a considerable amount of time on house arrest for another DUI and found myself restless early in sobriety. Restless and…
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Relationships in Recovery.
Sobriety has given me a life I’d never dreamed of, but what about relationships in recovery? Though I am certainly not an expert on love, my experience may help. The first question I have learned to ask when testing the waters of the ever-shrinking dating pool is: what am I using to attract people? If…
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Words matter.
I am a person who happens to be in long-term recovery. I have recovered from substance use disorder and am currently recovering from the damage I caused during active use. Words matter. I am fully aware of the debate between recovered and recovering. I choose these words carefully and with intention. The language I use…